2017 was a year of change in our household, and it was a year where we established a new normal. We had a new baby, a new lifestyle with me staying at home, and I began blogging towards the end of the year. It was a year of laying groundwork and finding our new normal. 2018 is going to be a year focusing on growth.
I’m not really keen on the word “resolution” when planning changes for the new year, instead I prefer the term “goals” because it has more of a growth connotation. When I hear people talking about their new year’s resolutions it always seems to me that they try to accomplish something in the short game, but they don’t follow through in the long haul. They diet hard for the first month, but a few bad days (or weeks), and they label their resolution as a failure. Then they go back to their old habits and feel worse about themselves.
Using the word goal, in my opinion at least, is more forgiving. You work on building new habits, and when you mess up, you shrug it off and get yourself back on track, reminding yourself of your goal. Thinking in the long term makes it easier to develop lifelong changes. So, I’m making a list of goals for 2018, and I’m going to mess up plenty I’m sure.
In 2018, I want to make it a personal goal to take some steps to make taking care of myself more of a priority. I sort of neglected myself this year, not taking the time to make certain I was taking care of my needs. And there were plenty of days where my lack of sleep, or skipping meals, or just looking in the mirror and seeing how tired and blah I looked would affect the way that my whole day went. Maintaining my physical, mental and spiritual health is important for not just my life, but also my family. Here are some of my personal goals for 2018:
- Try to get to bed at a reasonable hour. Getting sleep when you have two small kids is hard, especially on the nights when getting them to stay asleep is difficult. I’ve relocated my work zone and divvied up my work to try and help with the later nights, and I’m setting a bedtime for myself. One of the biggest challenges I had last year was fatigue; there were more days than I’d like to admit when I was functioning on 3-4 hours of sleep. And that made me prone to illness, headaches, and it also affected my focus, temper, and ability to play well with my kids. Regularizing my sleeping habits will go a long way to improving my personal life.
- Take care of my appearance. Making certain I shower regularly. Getting out of my pajamas every day. Brushing my hair, and getting it trimmed regularly. Putting on some make up regularly, not every day necessarily. These are things that will help me feel less tired, ugly, and frumpish; being able to look in the mirror and feel better about my appearance does improve my motivation. I’ve started doing this for the last couple of weeks and there has been a marked improvement.
- Have daily devotions: I try to make time every day to spend some time reading the Bible and in prayer. I have a favorite devotional and Bible app on my phone that I love to use; it even has a scheduling function for reminders.
My biggest goal for my family is to be more intentional in my time with them. This includes planning a better routine with regular activities for my kids, and more intentional learning experiences for them. Maintaining my marriage also is a top priority.
- In the last couple months, my husband and I began doing a monthly theme program with our kids. We pick a theme word for the month that we want to teach our kids and make that a topic that we discuss every day. Both my husband and I found that the monthly themes were good for us as well, so in 2018 I want to expand on it to make it a more intentional program for the whole family.
- I want to have a weekly “date night” with my husband. My husband and I have spent a lot of time trying to make time for each other at home after the boys go to bed. This year we’ve decided to make Thursday “date night”, even though most nights we won’t be leaving the house.
- I genuinely want to be the best parent I can be; I want to continue to get to know my kids better and better as they grow. Becoming parents has been the most challenging, frustrating, rewarding and fun thing my husband and I have ever done, and it is the biggest job in our lives. I want to have an open and learning nature in raising my kids, providing structure and discipline along with fun and fostering of their individuality.
- In the last few months, I’ve been finding my feet as a writer. In 2018, I want to focus on growing my blog intentionally and with purpose, as well as my networking and audience building.
- I am hoping to set a better schedule of planned posts and regular series. I’m planning to have a weekly Tech Free Tuesday Post, as well as a monthly Gaming with Toddlers Post, Marriage Post, and a researched play article. I have some surprises planned for this year too!
Well, that is a basic summary of my goals for the year. I’m looking forward to a new and exciting year!
What are some of your goals for 2018? How are you hoping to accomplish them?